How To Have A Prostate Massage: Nᵒ19 Secrets of the Sexually Empowered
A prostate orgasm is from stimulation of this nerve-packed spot of the male reproductive anatomy. It’s the equivalent of the infamous g-spot (of the female reproductive anatomy). Prostate exploration is enjoyed by people of every orientation. The orgasm is said to be more intense and can extend throughout the body.
What is the prostate?
The prostate is a gland located below the bladder and surrounds the urethra. It’s about the size and shape of a walnut, and rests along the front wall of the rectum. As part of the male reproductive anatomy, one of the roles of the prostate is to secrete a slightly alkaline fluid that’s added to sperm (together with other components it’s called semen) to nourish and protect them on their journey.
How to find the prostate
The prostate can be stimulated in two ways. From outside the body, creating sensations on the perineum can indirectly activate the feel-good benefits of this pleasurable spot. This is the stretch of skin between the scrotum and the anal opening. From the inside of the body, sliding a finger, anal toy or penis inside the anal opening, it can be felt about 2 inches along the front rectal lining—it’s actually reached through the rectum although it’s not located in the rectum.
Preparing yourself
Some people are self-conscious about wanting or trying up-the-butt action. Mentally, it’s helpful to release any hang-ups before you begin, as relaxation is key to enjoying this sexual act that can be considered taboo. It’s also important to know that while the anal area is thought of as a “dirty” place, feces is not typically stored in this rectum—it’s more of a “tunnel” to move it out of the body.
Clean clean clean
Taking a shower or bath before you begin can help alleviate any concern about any possible butt odor. A soak in the tub has the great benefit of allowing the hot water to put muscles at ease. And it’s something that can be done alone or with a partner as part of foreplay. Additionally, it’s a good time to be sure that nails—that will be inserted into the anal opening—are trimmed so they don’t tear the delicate lining of the rectum.
Set the mood
Prostate stimulation may be the main event, however it’s something you want to ease into with plenty of preparation and pre-play.
Here’s what to have ready when you want to experiment:
Anal lube: Water-based lube works fine, although it tends to dry out over time. Silicone lube is amazingly slick, but can ruin a silicone toy. Take your pick, however know that it’s a must-have for prostate play. Check out these options by Bijoux Indiscrets, Pjur or System Jo
Safer sex supplies: Having latex gloves, finger cots or condoms (whether used to cover a sex toy to keep it “clean” so as not to spread bacteria, or penis to reduce any STD risk).
Sex toys: All toys intended for anal must have a flared base or handle to prevent them from going in too deep which can be difficult to get out. Also, for those that are not used to anal play, it’s best to start small and then over time—as the person gets used to the sensation—graduate to something larger with more features. A good starter is the Aneros Helix Syn Trident or advancing to a vibe with several settings like the LELO Bruno.
How to give someone a prostate orgasm
While it may be easier to have a partner, prostate play is something that can also be done solo. Starting out with a prostate massage, and knowing that it has the potential for an orgasm, is the best bet! Beginning with foreplay, one of the things to incorporate is experimenting with indirect external stimulation to the prostate. This is done by stroking, pressing or rubbing the perineum with various pressures, rhythms and depths using a finger, knuckle or a toy. Adding lube at this stage can feel good to glide more easily over this erotic spot that’s closer to the anal opening, rather than father up. Start slow and see how things progress in terms of sensations.
After “warming up” the prostate with stimulation of the perineum, and once the recipient is relaxed, add lube to a finger or toy and make the move inside. The tush is used to having things come out and not go in. What tends to happen is that the external sphincter muscles naturally clench as this is a voluntary reaction. As the recipient, taking deep and conscious breaths is a good way to manage any lingering nervousness or tension. When the sphincter is relaxed, the finger can then slide up the front wall of the rectum. Approaching the prostate, there is a slight change in the surface that’s softer, fleshier and walnut sized. Using a come hither motion with the finger, the sensations will likely feel intense.
Consent and communication is key to find out what feels good and what’s needed in terms of comfort and pleasure. At any point an anal toy can be added to the mix. Hand jobs or blow jobs can also accompany prostate play—it’s a good diversion from a single source of stimulation and can amplify the intensity even more. And if the giver has a penis, that can stimulate the prostate too depending on the angle of penetration. When it feels pleasurable, it’s possible to “milk” the prostate so that prostatic fluid is released. It’s essentially ejaculate that does not contain sperm. Then, when the best combination of sensations are discovered, sticking with that motion and observing the receiving partner’s response is usually what leads to an explosive O.
Best positions for a prostate orgasm
Prostate stimulation is usually easiest if the receiver is lying flat on the back with bent legs that are crunched toward the chest or in the air. Lying on one side of the body can also give easy access to the anal opening. Doggy style is best for anal play or sex that can stimulate the prostate.
Health benefits of prostate stimulation
Since the prostate plays an integral role in its contribution to ejaculation, there are several conditions that may benefit from massage from this sensitive erogenous area and even orgasm. It can help improve erectile dysfunction, improve the flow of urine, relieve painful ejaculation and help with prostatitis a condition that causes inflammation and pain in the prostate commonly caused by a bacteria. If you experience any of these conditions or symptoms, it’s best to talk with your health care provider to see how prostate massage therapy can help and what other treatments can be useful.