Kissing - Pleasure Pointers For the First Time or Forever: Nᵒ5 Secrets of the Sexually Empowered

That first kiss with a new partner can be magical… or not. But have no fear, whether you're mustering up the courage to make it happen for the first time, or if locking lips for the first time with a special someone wasn’t as amazing as the movies make it out to be, there’s hope!

Or, on the flip side: Kissing can go well for awhile in repeated hook-ups or long term relationships, and then it gets forgotten. Instead you may find yourself heading straight for other foreplay or sexual acts. 

Lets take a step back and take a moment to appreciate the pleasure potential of lips melding together. 

PLEASURE POINTERS

Hover: Allow your lips to be close to your partner’s but don't lock lips. Feel each other’s breath. The sensation of being so close is intimate, but not actually doing it, can turn up the heat and make the desire even more intense.

Explore: Your mouth is an erogenous area that has heightened sensitivity. Open-mouth with tongue is a great way to become turned-on and intensify the connection.

Take control: Kissing can be used to determine relationship compatibility with your partner. Therefore, one may be more or less attracted to someone based solely on the kiss. We tend to put aside this very important act. Men typically go in for a slobbery kiss, while women tend to take it slow. Ladies, don’t be turned off if this happens. You can take control and lead the way. If he goes in a little too aggressively, slow it down. Using physical cues can help. Grab his neck or the back of his head and nibble his bottom lip. If you take the lead, he will follow. 

Get him in on the action

Kissing takes two. Try having him kiss you all over. Kiss his neck and nibble on his ears. Then, ask him to reciprocate. If you want things to progress, have him lightly kiss your nipples, between your thighs, perhaps he covers every inch. Men usually think we want pressure, which we do a lot of the time! But those gentle kisses all over your body can be just as, or even more pleasurable. 

Try something new

Put an ice cube in your mouth for 30 seconds and then kiss him. The change in temperature from cold to warm is very erotic.

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